Getting Rid Of Your New Year Blues
It’s the first couple of weeks of the year and the conversations with yourself is already all too familiar;
I didn’t get a better job
I didn’t gain that weight
I didn’t find love and happiness
I didn’t make more money
My grades are still failing
Does that sound like you? While some people look forward to NYE and New Year’s parties and their resolutions, some of us dread this time for the simple reason that it’s time to take stock, think back and access our accomplishments or otherwise. Although that is definitely not what the celebrations are about.
If you usually find yourself in some sort of depressive state, this is undoubtedly one of the worse seasons for you. There is a large amount of noise around the New Year and its resolutions, a large enough quantity to have you spiral down the depression route.
It is completely OK to want to go back in time and find out what you did and did not achieve, even advisable if you made some sort of list to help you through them. The problem is not with accessing but with dwelling on what you were not able to achieve and basically living in that part of town.
It is OK also to want to go over and over our perceived failings; only reason why you’ll find a million media reviews hashing out what happened in the year, we love to go back in time. But, it is completely not OK to dwell on them, patiently stewing and doing nothing about them.
And then the endless “did you achieve you resolutions? What are your New Year’s resolutions?” begins and drags you further down, making you focus on all the parts but the positive ones. You can never really avoid the New Year craze.
Somehow we never seem to achieve everything, or we missed something, there is always something to keep you from fully celebrating the end of an amazing year regardless of the downs.
It took me a long time to realize that we tend to set higher targets for ourselves or under measure our accomplishments or worse measure them on the most difficult scale, making it near impossible to achieve everything we hoped to, in our eyes. And that’s when I stopped dwelling on my “failings” and celebrating the successes, however little I thought they were.
Knowing when to stop dwelling on them is the most important step towards getting rid of your New Year Blues. Look at this way, is thinking and rethinking it out getting you anywhere close to solving the problem? No? Then quit it. How about you do some critical “thinking” around how best to solve it? Maybe break it down to achievable quotas and then begin?
Maybe take stock a bit earlier, notice where you think you fell short and start a more rounded approach towards achieving it. How about you switch your attention away from the problem for a while? Try to focus on other things, like how great life was or how cute your kitten is, anything to take your mind off it.
Then if you choose to get back to it you’ll at least have an action plan. That is important to remember.
There is no resolution too “big”, sometimes you just need to make it more realistic, break it down, make a plan, and set some time lines or targets, whatever works best for you
I find it easier to get things done when it’s as specific as specific can be. Things are hardly perfect, we might never get all our pegs perfectly lined up, but we are alive, and we have hope.
Take a minute and appreciate what you achieved and all that you have, it may seem like not much to you, but it is definitely a whole lot to someone out there. If that doesn’t put a smile on your face and get you going try a few scenes from Home and have Tip and the Boovs cheer you up.
Happy New Year!
Article by Sunshine adventurer Pamela. Follow her on Twitter: @pamm_rocks